What happens for the first time when a girl meets a boy? It can be either attraction, or revulsion or neutral reaction. When a boy meets a girl, he may find her beautiful attractive, charming. Good speaker, intelligent or having some quality that may attract the boy to the girl. That is like a magnetic pull. Many people fall in love in the beginning because they found the shape of nose to be very cute or the laughter very attractive.
During dating, when you are asking for a date, that magnetic pull has to be present in the beginning. Without that pull no date will get finalized. If you feel revulsion, you will surely not agree for the date. How to develop the magnetic attraction so that you get the first date? Things can go forward only after you get the first date. The question here is how to develop magnetic attraction.
Surly, you do not know about what quality of yours may attract the girl or boy towards you. So the best bet is it develop all the qualities and eliminate all those qualities that may produce any revulsion. Wherever you are not sure be neutral. Let me explain further.
If you see me laughing and find that my teeth are dirty or having stains, surely you will hate that. If you talk to me and sense bad odor, surely you will turn back. It is also true for body odor. Watching my nails, you would surely want to see well-manicured nails, and not dirty nails without shape. You may get shocked if you find me wearing clothes having weird color combination. There are so many areas where we should take care and present ourselves as a perfect specimen. Keep a bunch of good jokes ready. Jokes can break any barrier. Avoid all criticism. Avoid political talk. Avoid everything that may immediately provoke a reaction. The formula for the magnetic attraction is simple – Enhance all that is positive, eliminate all negatives and wherever unsure, adopt neutral attitude. Add in lots of confidence and you are through.
I heard a boy saying that he was shy and good-looking. He was saying the bad looking boys who are not shy attract girls. That made me think not about looks, but about shyness. It is not that only men are shy. Women may be shyer. Quiz yourself if you are looking in the wrong direction to find out why you are not getting a good date?
You may be thinking about various reasons and trying to get more tips from friends about how to get a good date. Is your shyness not the cause? Please quiz yourself now. Are you comfortable approaching any person of opposite sex? Can you confidently walk towards a man /woman and introduce yourself? Can you give physical signals indicating your interest? Or you don’t raise your eyes if you like someone?
What if somebody approaches you? Will you go in easy conversation or keep quiet thinking what to say- tongue-tied? Do you feel confident about yourself? How do you rate your personality? If you are shy with persons of opposite sex, did you try to find out the reason? Have you discussed with friends? Are your friends also shy or confident and easy going? Did you ask for any tip about how to stop being shy?
Many of us are shy and that makes us miss lot of opportunities to meet persons of opposite sex and develop friendship. Any person who is shy will have difficulty getting a date. You have to break the shyness and talk. Nothing will happen except the best. The worst that can happen is a no. But that happens with all of us. Why not stop being shy and win hearts?